“I never became more queer. I can’t become less queer. But my awareness of myself – my falling-in-love, non-discriminatory silly starry-eyed self that falls in love with people whose funny, gentle, kind, fierce souls shine out through their eyes whether they’re men or women – that queerness is a thing that I have discovered over time. And that queerness, and my growing understanding and acceptance of it, is who I am.
Being queer doesn’t make my life any less a testament to the glory of God or the work of God’s spirit in my life or make me less wholly, entirely Jesus Christ’s.
The more queer I am, the more Christian I am.” 
Today I am publicly acknowledging something about myself that I have known for a while - I’m bisexual.
“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted –– romantically and/or sexually –– to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.” 
In some ways, this announcement doesn’t change much. I’m still happily married to a man I love deeply, & I accepted that other people could be LGBTQ+ Christians well before I accepted that I, too, was part of that group. I haven’t had to make any huge theological shifts, I just had to accept that this part of me has always existed & will always exist.
So why bother coming out? Why bother telling the world that I’m bi? Several reasons, actually.
I want to be fully known. I don’t want to worry about accidentally outing myself. I want to be able to acknowledge the fact that I have had crushes on celebrities of all genders. I don’t want to hide myself because I’m afraid of the opinions and theology I was raised on.
But more than those personal things, I want to be visible. I want my life to be part of a conversation that is so very important & so very absent from many of the spaces I grew up in. LGBTQ+ folks exist even in those places where they are most condemned, but hiding from yourself & others always leads to pain & trauma. I also want to be visible because there are lots of misconceptions & stereotypes about bi+ people. A big part of tearing down those ideas is living visibly as a bi woman.
So, here are a few answers to frequently asked questions:
- Jared supports & loves me because of who I am, not in spite of it
- my marriage is doing great
- I am no less capable of commitment in relationships because of my bisexuality
- I am no more sexual or “promiscuous” than anyone else because of my bisexuality
- in answer to any questions about my sex life, who I have or haven’t kissed in my life, etc.- that’s very weird to ask, please stop & reevaluate why you care
Lastly, I want to thank those people who have become my closest friends & support system, even if you’re “just an internet friend.” You know who you are.
 quote by Robyn Ochs